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Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

Sarah Tripp Didn’t Pack Any Bags.

Sarah Tripp didn’t pack any bags as she left, but rather left all the things scattered in all the places she lived for others to use in preparation to come on home with her when they, too, have finished living in the testing ground. Her test is over and she passed. Her sickness is over and she is whole. Her battle with the devil and death is over and she is victorious. Her pain is finished and she is at rest. Her incredible struggle with leaving behind is over and she has left. (That’s the hard part for those left behind.) 

One simple photo (above) that Lori Morris sent to me yesterday morning speaks volumes about her legacy. (Lori took this shot of her tv screen as she live-streamed at home with a sick child.)  Here’s Sarah’s 14-year-old son, David, on the morning after his mother peacefully went away with the angels, at worship services with the church, serving on the communion table and commemorating the One who gave him and Kate and Mike the hope that now sustains them. Coincidentally, it was David’s birthday. (David is just to your right of the table in the photo.)

And then there was this that I read from Kerri Epling yesterday: 

It’s funny how you never know when meeting someone will make a difference in your life. Several years ago at PTP, a sweet mama walked up to me while I was taking a short break and said, “You look like a mom and Bible class teacher. You’ll help me.” There was no discussion or chance for protest. She grabbed some of my things and  proceeded to lead me to an area where preschool kids were coming in just a few minutes and said, “Someone didn’t show for their time slot. Be a Bible character and tell them a story.” I don’t even remember what character I chose  (probably Esther because I had recently taught that in VBS) as she slapped a headpiece on my head and said “you’ll do fine,” but I have remembered her boldness and passion for sharing the gospel ever since. It wasn’t until the class was over that she even told me her name was Sarah, but the sisterhood bond was immediate. We hugged and laughed about it and went about our day afterward, but that moment has always stuck with me.

Sarah lost her earthly battle to cancer last night, and I will forever be impressed with the grace and peace with which she handled the certainty of her passing. Please pray for her husband and children, and if you have the opportunity to share the gospel with someone, be a Sarah! Seize the moment, take the chance, and be bold for Jesus.

I watched the Christmas movie, Klaus, on Vid-Angel, with the grands this weekend. In fact, we were watching it as I learned of Sarah’s passing.  It had this recurring theme stated over and over in it: “A true selfless act always sparks another.” We paused the movie to discuss and apply. I told them about Sarah and the blessings of being faithful to Him while we still have time.  I believe there will be these sparks until the trumpet blows from the well-lived life of Sarah. It only takes a stroll down memory lane or a scroll down her Facebook page to see the sparks everywhere. 

Scripture always says it in the most powerful way. (Of course, it does. It is the breath of God!) Of Abel, the Spirit said “He, being dead yet speaks. Sarah is speaking today. I’m thankful that I knew her.

Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

Peter and James…and Ellis

The profundity of the comments that children make in Bible discussions never ceases to amaze me. Last night, at my son’s house, there was a discussion of Peter and James in Acts 5 and 12; how that God saw fit to deliver Peter from prison in Acts 5, but did not deliver James in Acts 12.  Instead, He allowed his execution. Maggie, who is seven, thought it was interesting and began to think of reasons why that would be the case. Together, they thought of all kinds of reasons God might have had, in His sovereignty and complete knowledge, to allow this disparity. I’m sure they listed reasons having to do with the spread of the gospel and reasons having to do with the strengthening of those left behind. But Ellis, who is four, said, in a trembling and weepy little voice “Wait! God didn’t save James?!!”

But, in the end, their mama and daddy pointed out the important truth that James was happy in his death because He got to go to be with the Lord and all of his suffering was over, for good. “See? James was happy that he got to leave prison and go to be forever happy. It actually made him happy that he was chosen to get to leave this world.” 

Ellis, in a trembling little voice responded “Well, maybe it made James happy. But it doesn’t make me happy.” 

Sometimes I fail to look at things through the eyes of God.  Often, I’m looking at death and suffering around me and, with trembling voice, I say “This doesn’t make me happy.” Like Ellis, I am full of compassion toward God’s people and I wonder why the evil and death is all around. 

It is through the words of Peter that I take comfort:

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, who by God’s power are being guarded through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls (1 Peter 1:3-9).

I love the word outcome. See, the ultimate outcome for James and Peter was the same. It was the salvation of their souls. Something was being kept in heaven; reserved for each of them. In the grand scheme of things, their entrances into the realm of glory was separated by only the briefest moment in time—just a few years in the vast sea of eternity. 

But I would not have those words in this epistle of suffering if Peter had not survived the imprisonment of Acts 5 and gone on to write them later. And, perhaps, the Holy Spirit could then use Peter to write them, in part, because Peter had witnessed and survived the early Jewish and Herodian persecution, even in the death of James. Remember, James was one of his fishing buddies in the early days, before they made the huge life-change there in Capernaum, by the sea of Galilee. The loss of Peter, in James’ death, was the ultimate gain for James. Death is no thief to the faithful, for his sting has been taken (1 Corinthians15:55). Peter was learning that through every trial and loss. He was getting ready to write 1 Peter and give comfort and courage to many generations of Christians to come.

We are grieved by various trials. As Ellis says “They don’t make us happy.” But one day they will.

Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

Covenant Consciousness…and my Dad

This month, while thinking about the covenant life that we live in Christ and about ensuring that our children know that covenant, I received this recording from my dear friend, Berta Kennedy. She was present at a college reunion at the Jacksonville church of Christ; a sweet time when those students who had strengthened their faith, in college years, through being part of the Jacksonville Christian Student Center, came back to enjoy worship and fellowship together. 

One of the speakers at this event was Dalton Gilreath. He always does a fantastic job presenting the Word of God. I have loved him for a long time. You’ll love this if you can take time to listen. But if you only get to hear four minutes of what he had to say, listen to the recording beginning at minute 41:00. He talks there about a committed man in a time of mental and physical crisis. That man was my dad, Lee Holder. Next month, I will have been missing Dad for eight years. As the time of his death becomes more distant, the time of reunion with him and my mother draws closer; and that’s a wonderful reality. Here’s the link (minute 41): https://www.jvillecoc.com/class/09-07-2025-dalton-gilreath-keeping-the-past-present-jcsc-reunion-lesson-1/

My covenant with God (my promise) is faith and obedience as long as I live in this testing ground. His promise, if I do, is salvation and heaven.  

I hope that, if I ever lose my faculties, even temporarily, as was the case with Dad, in this instance when he was almost the age of 90, that my auto-pilot will be similar to his. I’m thankful that he lived in the covenant relationship with God and that all of his children and grandchildren are covenant-keepers.

I remember that awful night as if it was last night. I got the call that my dad had been transported to the hospital and I got in the car and rushed to that emergency room where a kind doctor told me that he very well might pass at some point in that long night. You can read about that here: https://thecolleyhouse.org/?s=right+turn

But it was another long night six happy years later before we sang “Be with Me Lord” around his bed, as he left us. All of the great  grandchildren he knew were born in those sweet six years. His oldest grandson was married during those years and he traveled to Tennessee for that wedding. So many things changed during those happy years. But some things stayed just the same. He sat right there on that same pew for about a thousand more times during those years (though I think that awful night was the only one in which he ever took his shoes off). He walked under the giant oaks that he had planted, as saplings, on that church property about a thousand more times to enter the building. He passed out Halloween candy to the church children who came trick-or-treating six more times and he gave about 200 more Christmas gifts. He played with squirrels on his patio, one of which would come and eat bread from his hand. He adopted a stray dog and he piddled in the shop. He celebrated, at a giant picnic at Germania Springs, his ninetieth birthday. And then, finally, on a snowy day in early December of 2017,  his body did lie exactly where it had lain on that awful night. But this time, he wasn’t rescued to have six more sweet years of favorite things. He was rescued to have an eternity of things so wonderful…things that are immeasurably MORE than we can ask or imagine. 

I’ve followed him to a lot of places. If I can follow him just once more, that’s all I ever want! 

Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

The Best Care for Amos

 

Yesterday, I hugged a mama who stood by the casket containing the sweet form of her two-year old son. Then I hugged the baby’s daddy. They have spent the last year-and-a half in and out of cancer units at Huntsville Hospital, Vanderbilt and St. Jude. Baby Amos has spent more nights of his life in the hospital than out. They watched him suffer when Morphine and Ativan were no match for the pain. These parents were often away from their six other sons while keeping the bedside vigil for Amos. One of those six is severely disabled–unable to walk, communicate, breathe easily, or eat– due to complications at birth. This nine -year-old receives constant family care. The past year-and-a-half have been, for these parents, only survival mode.  Last Tuesday, Baby Amos won the battle over the cancer and gained the ultimate freedom from all pain and sickness. 

At what was appropriately termed a celebration of his life, his brothers, ages 3-12, led the family (and all of us) in singing “God is so Good”, “How Deep the Fathers Love”,“Jesus Loves the Little Children”, and “Jesus Loves Me”. His father talked about counting our blessings and letting our lights shine. He talked about baby Amos now being whole and happy and safe with our Lord. Some of the songs were sung in English first and then echoed in Samoan, the family’s native tongue. One song was sung completely in Samoan and the rich tones of that full and beautiful refrain from that broken-hearted, but faith-filled family are with me still as I reflect. They did not falter in praise. Amos’ uncles and his cousin also helped with the service. 

Last night, as Eliza Jane said her bed-time prayer, she said “Thank you for taking care of Baby Amos when he died.” I could not have said it better. Simply profound. He is now in the infinitely better care of the Father. 

That’s what He’s done for me, too. At Calvary, he took care of me for the time when I die. He empowered me to shout “Oh death, where is thy strength? Oh grave where is thy victory?” (1 Corinthians 15:55).

 Amos suffered like none of us reading has endured. Yet during some of his hardest days, he was still giving out his favorite form of encouragement—fist bumping all around him “to beat the band”  from that hospital bed. 

Sunday night is often Eliza Jane’s night to come to Mammy’s. As I write it’s about 6 am on Monday and she has just come from her little bed to climb in and snuggle with me. As I look down at her little Bluey-tattooed arm and her disheveled dog-ears, her closed eyes and that ever-beloved paci, that we can’t seem to wrest away, bobbing up and down, I wonder why. Why is it that one family has lost their baby and my little grandchild is sleeping peacefully beside me? I do not know. But I do know that they really have not lost him. They know right where he is. 

While the pain is excruciating and the sorrow will not ease for a long time, that sorrow stands in juxtaposition to the faith and hope that was so bravely displayed yesterday in that service. Their very lives, in this moment, are the battleground between despair and faith, between steadfastness and  surrender to the awful pain that was initially inflicted in the garden by the devil himself. And faith and hope is winning in their lives. I have never seen a more potent display of faith. They came to Huntsville, Alabama almost ten years ago now, for many reasons, the immediate one being care for Melchizedek, their third son. They needed resources. They needed more current methods of health care for Mel. They needed a strong church family. But I think we needed them more than they needed us. 

I am stronger today than yesterday, when I went to worship in dread of the sadness I knew the day held. God is good, like that. Yesterday, he gave Glenn and me four people with whom to study. He gave us three baptisms. He gave us a visitor who needed a little comfort over lunch. He gave us an extra 9-year -old friend at lunch for the children. He gave me two visitors to transport in my vehicle. On an infinitely grander level, He gave us His undeserved communion around His table and the privilege of study and praise. And then, just when I sat down to witness a family in their hour of deepest sorrow, He gave me, through the lens of a great Samoan ohana, the light at the end of a dark tunnel. I have long quoted Psalm 46:1:

God is our refuge and strength; a very present help in a time of trouble. 

Yesterday, the verse was not merely quoted; it was on display. Trouble, in that verse, means a constricted place, in which there is no way to turn. It means between a rock and a hard place. Yesterday was a tangible picture of what His people do when between a rock and hard place and, in the most constricted of places.  They realize that the Rock is Jesus and that, even in darkness, they can find a way to stand firmly on that Rock. Thank-you, Abraham, Diana, AJ, Caleb, Mel, Glenn, Gabriel, Zechariah, Pisa, Ruth, Junior, Retta, Malachi and Gideon. We are praying continually. Thank-you Amos, for leaving a little legacy. The God of more (Ephesians 3:20) can do more than we ask or imagine with a brief life lived in that constricted place.

He is good.      


 

 

Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

Snippet from Digging Deep Writing Week…Out My Window

Death and its power never ceases to amaze me. I don’t want to be unfeeling or irreverent, but it has come to every single person (except Enoch and Elijah) since the sin in the garden. Yet we all act shocked when it comes to our house. It is the most predictable event and yet we are never prepared for our loved ones to go. We act as if we never imagined this could happen and yet we knew, beyond doubt, that it would happen. 

During my writing weeks in some of the past Digging years, I’ve opened my window to find a giant flag waving or a beautiful field sprawling for acres (or a crowded parking lot). This year I opened my window to see peaceful rows of flower-strewn graves and one lone, aging man sitting on a bench under a big oak tree with his head bowed. I have looked out there a lot this week. As I have been writing, two of my dear friends in this life have lost loved ones—one a daughter at the age of 35, and one a younger brother at the age of 60. I knew and loved these people who now know so much more than I do about the subject at hand. 

And that is, perhaps, the reason that death has a hold of terror on most of us. We cannot know it. We cannot speak with anyone who has experienced it, except of course in prayer and study. It’s a thing as natural as birth or walking or talking and, yet, when it comes our way, we are bowed low beneath its burden.

And God made it that way. Since the garden, Satan has had his malignant hand in our earthly affairs, subjecting us to pain, sorrow, death and its grief. He is not done with you and me. 

But, additionally, when I think about death, the sadness it brings is also a result of the great gift of fellowship. God made us with longings for relationships. I know this because he made us in His image and no one has given more for relationship and communion with you and me than the Father and Son. No one has given more for family. We are in His image, so we treasure relationships, too. We long, deep within our souls, for the benefits that come when we care for others and they reciprocate. We are meant to be social and when we are disconnected, we become less than what we could be—in our eternal hopes, in our earthly influences and in our personal peace.

But the Son showed us powerfully that the ultimate victory over death is His. The Spirit then revealed all that we need to know about what happens at, and after, death.

I hope you’re planning to study with us (or in some systematic way) next year. It’s not all about dying. It’s a whole lot about living. And it’s all we really know about either–the Word of God!

Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

Carol Dodd…A Name in the Book

I know God knows best, but I wish Carol could have lived a little while longer because, unlike most people diagnosed with cancer, she came into her spiritual prime AFTER that diagnosis. Not that she wasn’t a force for the devil to reckon with prior to the cancer, but, with all the spiritual tenacity that was characteristic of her whole life, she determined to spend the last months of her life influencing, patterning and preparing for the time when she “being dead, yet speaks” (Hebrews 11:4). And she does speak with clarity now. She went to her long home (Ecclesiastes 12:5) on Saturday morning early and left many of us just longing for the reunion we will know one day. More people will enjoy the reunion because Carol lived. 

Carol was never self-serving and so the book that was published, of her deep Bible studies and lessons presented to women, was presented to her as a surprise. The first run quickly sold out and we have a very limited supply of the second printing. If you want one by which you may remember Carol, but most importantly draw closer to the God she served, order here: www.thecolleyhouse.org

Let me emphasize that all proceeds will be given directly to Don. Although we have the books and are mailing them, no proceeds will go to The Colley House. It’s an excellent book for personal study or ladies classes. 

She was pretty special. She loved Christmas, Harry Potter, eating Mexican food with us and Digging Deep. Most of all, she loved God. She knew this life was a testing ground. She passed. I know she did. That’s the blessed assurance. There is nothing to mourn except for the selfish realization that I will miss her constant encouragement sorely. (And then there’s the painful reality that so many others will miss her in countless ways; especially her devoted husband, Don.) She truly cared about my children. She loved my grandchildren. She taught them and many of your children and grandchildren. She was the brightest source of encouragement that I’ve known in this world in a very long time. The chasm of this void will be deep for many. We should pray for each other as we walk through the valley of the shadow of this death (Psalm 23:4). He is with us.

Once pretty early in our relationship, Carol thought I had unfriended her on Facebook. In typical Carol fashion, she fretted and worried and finally came up with the courage to ask Glenn why I had done that. She was surprised to find that, upon investigation, she had accidentally unfriended me! I laughed so hard. I’m glad there’s another book in which the only erasures are done with God’s blotter.

He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels (Revelation 3:5).

A recent letter to encourage a child…It did encourage him.

I’m glad that book will be opened and, once closed, my time and bliss with sisters will have no bounds. Praise Him!