Survey About Sexual Abuse

Statistics are alarming and I am not at all sure that they correctly assess the magnitude of the problem. I do know that more and more young women that I know are carrying the baggage of sexual abuse as they come of age. Coming to terms with the perceived guilt, the feelings of worthlessness and shame, and the typical moral destruction of innocence lost prematurely is more than most people can overcome in this lifetime.

In an effort to help women of God minister to this sadly growing number of broken lives, Glenn Colley of  THINK magazine (Focus Press) has commissioned a young woman, Tabitha Barker, to research and address this issue in a series of articles. If you have input on the following series of questions, we would appreciate any responses, particularly if you have suffered from sexual abuse in your life or because of it in the life of a loved one. You will be completely anonymous. If you wish to maintain your anonymity even from the author you may use Tabitha’s postal address. Her contact info is at the bottom of this post. Please feel free to answer the survey in part if you do not wish to answer all the questions.

Here are the questions:

Why do you think the topic of sexual abuse is so hard to discuss?

How did the uncomfortable atmosphere surrounding sexual abuse affect how and when you sought help?

What is the most helpful thing anyone ever said or done to help you deal with the issues that arise as a victim of sexual abuse?

What was the hardest aspect of healing?

What is the one thing you wish people in the position to help should know?

Did your sexual abuse cause you to become involved in other destructive behaviors? Can you elaborate?

Did anyone in the church help you recover and, if so, was this a minister or sister, or elder, etc…?  Please feel free to comment.

 

Thanks very much for participating. Please send your responses to:

tabs0789@gmail.com OR

Tabitha Barker
153 Mallard Pt,
Pelham AL 35124

Navigating the School Years

Do:

  • Know your children’s teachers and textbooks. Volunteer to be the room mother.
  • Have a daily (every day –no exceptions) family Bible time.
  • Converse with your children each day about the school day.
  • Your homework, so that you can successfully refute evolutionary concepts and humanistic teachings,
  • Be a presence in your children’s schools, even on the high school level.
  • Examine, without bias, other education options such as home schooling. Too much is at stake to keep your children in a situation where souls are at risk.
  • Be involved in the homework process. This will help you know when you need to counteract humanistic material being presented.
  • Put a Bible in your kids’ backpacks and encourage them from early ages to take it out and read it through the day. This won’t work if you wait till high school to begin.
  • Go to bat for your children if they face persecution for speaking their convictions. Let them own their beliefs, but when the going gets tough, help them find ways to avoid compromise.
  • Be at home when they get home in the afternoons. Make that time a pleasant and warm homecoming every day.
  • Use school travel time to communicate calmly, listen to Bible reading or to uplifting spiritual singing.
  • Make decisions when your children are young about activities in middle and high school in which they will plan NOT to participate. In our house, they knew from their preschool  years  that they would not attend proms or parties where alcohol was being served. Standards of modest dress and decorum were required way before peer pressure set in. This does not magically dissolve all of the temptations the devil hurls their way, but it goes a long way in giving them resisting power.

Don’t:

  • Adopt the mentality that since you send your children to school, the responsibility for their education is no longer yours.  God holds parents accountable for the education of their children.
  • Allow your children to become distant from you. Never stop communicating (Deut. 6:4-6)
  • Be too busy to spend daily time with each of your children. Make outings and activities with them a priority.
  • Ever, ever skip a scheduled worship service for a school or sports activity.
  • Ever let a day go by in which they don’t hear you pray for their souls.
  • Leave your children at after-hours school day care as a babysitting service. The bare minimum number of hours is enough and often too much.
  • Encourage your children to give in to peer pressure. Get rid of the mentality that you don’t want them to think being a Christian is restrictive and “no fun”. Being a Christian is living sacrificially and is not always fun. But sacrifices strengthen convictions that will serve them well through a lifetime toward heaven.
  • Assume you will find out if your children are questioning the existence of God or the doctrines of the Scriptures. Your job is to communicate, communicate, communicate!
  • Leave your children in a school situation in which faith is being eroded. There are options. This risk is eternal. You can never regain this important time in their lives.

This post and the preceding one are taken from an article by Cindy Colley first published  in an earlier issue of THINK magazine. (Focus Press, Nashville, TN) Below are the sources used.

Bibliography
Anderson, Kerry. “Bible Distribution.” Limbaugh, David. Persecution. Washington, DC: Regnery Publishing, 2003. 44.
Catholic League for Religious and Civil Rights. Catholic League for Religious and Civil Rights. 05 October 1999. 23 June 2007 .
Hetzner, Amy. JSOnline. 21 March 2001. 23 June 2007 .
Liberty Counsel. “”School Officials Trash Truth for Youth Bibles and Ten Commandments Book Covers.” Limbaugh, David. Persecution. Washington, DC: Regnery Publishing, 2003. 45.
Limbaugh, David. Townhall. 27 February 2002. 23 June 2007 .
Mohammed, Nisha N. The Rutherford Insitute-Press Releases. 04 November 2003. 23 June 2007 .
More, Thomas. Thomas More Law Center. 25 June 2002. 22 June 2007 .
Potter, Charles Francis. “Humanism: A New Religion.” Limbaugh, David. Persecution. Washington, DC: Regnery Publishing, 2003. 65.

Kudos and Congratulations to THINK

Never in my memory has a publication like THINK magazine been available in any major mainstream book market. By the grace of God, THINK, a very sound and influential publication, is now available in airport magazine stands, Barnes and Noble Booksellers and Book World. Now that’s a blessing worth celebrating. Will you take the time to thank God for His providing this avenue of placing the gospel in the hands of those who peruse these markets? Will you take the time to pray God’s blessings on those men who are responsible for the direction and production of THINK? Will you pray for those who write for THINK? And will you pray for the ultimate increased population of heaven as a result of this magazine?

The next two blog installments will be from an article I wrote for a former issue of THINK. I’ve divided the article into two parts because it’s lengthy and I know you only have a moment each day to read a blog. You can subscribe to THINK by visiting www.focuspress.org. or you can pick up a copy at your neighborhood Barnes and Noble retailer. Wow! That does have nice ring to it!