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Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley

Sister to Sister: Oh Shepherd, Where Art Thou?

Headed-to-the-OfficeWhere? Where were the brave men in the church in Memphis, Tennessee who should have stood up and said, “We cannot bypass the expressed Will of God in First Timothy 2 by sanctioning the leadership of women in prayer and song in our worship? We simply cannot allow this to happen.”

Where were elders in Franklin, Tennessee during the years of digression that culminated in the hiring of the first woman pulpit intern at that church? Were there some who fought, at least for a time?

Where are elders in churches where groups of worshippers are clamoring for change; advocating the use of instruments in worship, the taking of communion on various days of the week, and  special religious observances on Easter and Christmas? Where are the shepherds?

Where are the bishops today when young couples are finding their way to divorce courts, young singles among us are openly living in fornication, and millennials are falling away in percentages that are taking our breath away? Are they going after them?

Some are. But in far too many churches, shepherds are not keeping the vigil. False teachers are allowed to bring heresy in and leaders allow Christians to scratch their heads and observe “Well, this is different than anything I’ve heard,” without coming before the people and refuting plain contradictions of the Word. So often, they fail to mark those who are causing division and, thus, churches divide and the Cause of Jesus suffers as communities see brethren who are splintering churches.

But, Cindy Colley, are you just ranting? This is a women’s blog and the sisters to whom you write cannot lead churches (except those churches you’re taking about which digress)!

There is something you can do. I would LOVE, through this blog to make a difference in the future of a congregation. What if we could do it through a book? I think we can. I want to encourage you to take a copy of “Headed to the Office” to your elders and respectfully ask them to let your boys take a quarter and study how to become faithful elders. What if you wrote your elders a note that  simply asked them to consider it?…

Dear Brothers,

Thanks for all the time spent in working to make our congregation pleasing to God. Thanks for protecting our souls. I hope you can take the time to look over this material. I’m praying for sound elders one day to take your places in shepherding this church. I think a quarter or two in a class of young men with this material could make a difference in getting there. Thanks for considering this! 

If your congregation is doing Lads to Leaders, your boys can enroll in the program through LADS. The material is here: But even if you’re not in the LADS program, this study is needed and may be the early intervention that gives your congregation the stamina to one day withstand the devil in a mighty way. I would encourage you to go order one copy…just one…to pass along to your elders. I’m convinced it’s a tiny investment that could keep congregations strong through what threatens to be an era of persecution.

Again, you can order from Lads to Leaders (not necessary to be a participating congregation) at the above link or, alternately, you can order from The Colley House at!/~/category/id=3290179&offset=0&sort=normal. Nine dollars. Not much to invest in strong shepherds for the next generation in your congregation.

PS. An added benefit that we have seen is that men grow when they teach this material to boys. Some classes even include dads and mentors and it puts the church on a fast track to having strong qualified elders. I’m praying about this tool today. I’m praying for strong churches when today’s teens take the reins. They have huge potential handed to them by God and by an environment of available resources. We should challenge them to put  this potential to work in the only institution on earth that commutes over to the timeless side.



Guest Writer: Reed Vega-Book Review

In an earlier post I recommended Glenn’s new book Headed to the Office. I cannot know if the fact that Glenn wrote this book is a factor in my judgment about the quality and timeliness of this book. I’m just not objective enough to know. But I do know that I hope our son will read it, study it, apply it and teach it. I know that I continue to visit congregations where I think this book could be a positive and needed catalyst for leadership development. Recently my husband gave a copy of this book to Reed Vega. Reed, the 13-year-old son of Matt and Jennifer Vega of Montgomery, AL, was kind enough to carefully read and review the book. I want to share his comments with you, because they are insightful. Most of all, I want to encourage those of you who are mothers to be sure your kids are into good books. What a great idea for family Bible time for parents to occasionally have kids read great materials for several consecutive nights before prayer time and then spend a couple of evenings reviewing the readings. Great and doctrinally sound books for Christian families can be found at, at, at, at and at (among many others). Here’s Reed’s take on the book Headed to the Office.
by Reed Vega

I really enjoyed reading the book, Headed to the Office written by Glenn Colley. It takes an original approach to looking at the qualifications of an elder. I really encouraged me as a young man to develop these traits so I will be ready to lead God’s people in the future. Each chapter discusses one of the biblical traits of being a good elder in modern terms so that young people can easily understand them. In chapter one, He Wants to Be a Great Man, the book starts by asking the question, “How do you view yourself forty years from now?” This question prompted me to think about how I want to spend the rest of my life. It reminded me how much I want to live a life in service to God. It helped me to realize that there is no higher calling than to shepherd God’s flock. Chapter two talks about how elders keep a clear conscience in all they do in order to be blameless. This is something that has always bothered me about elders. My grandfather served as an elder for over thirty years. I have admired him and other elders for their service but they almost seemed too perfect to me. How could I ever be as good as them? However this book has shown me a new way to look at elders. It explains what being “blameless” really means. Even though they are good men and should be admired, they still have flaws. They have to work hard at living in such a way that they do not have to worry about someone accusing them of doing something wrong. I realized that my struggles with living a honest Christian life are helping to prepare me to be just like them someday. Chapters four, five, and six cover some of the most important topics in the book. If elders are to lead our church then they must be wise, of good behavior and they must have time for people other than themselves. I especially liked the book’s discussion of wisdom which was defined as: “The ability to see how a particular course of action will ultimately turn out.” This definition is a very good one. It makes clear that a wise elder can see what will help himself and the congregation grow spiritually and what will not. Chapter seven deals with how an elder must have a working knowledge of God’s Word. The book gives great ideas on how to gain bible knowledge. It suggests reading small books like Philippians that you can read at least one or two times through in a single sitting. It emphasizes keeping notes and using commentaries and dictionaries to answer any questions that come to mind. Chapter eight talks about how important it is for an elder avoid alcohol. One of the key verses given is Proverbs 20:1which says, “Wine is a mocker, Strong drink is a brawler, and whoever is led astray by it is not wise.” The verse really illustrates how the requirement to not be given to wine goes hand in hand with the wisdom trait. When you drink alcohol and become drunk you become exactly the opposite of wisdom, you become a fool. Chapters nine and ten deals with the practical importance of an elder being able to control his temper and being honest in all his business dealings. The book says, “That you’ve got to remember that an uncontrolled temper hurts children and ruins marriage. I’ve never thought that any member of my family should be allowed to kick things or slam doors when angry, and that includes me.” The book says plainly that an elder cannot have a bad temper if he is to deal with problems rationally. The book also points out that dishonest business practices are not only evil but take away from giving to God. Chapter 11 talks about patience. The book points out the importance of the trait in many ways. One verse that is given is Titus 3:1-2 which says we are ”to be peaceable, gentle, showing humility to all men.” This is a problem that I struggle with sometimes. I get a little annoyed whenever someone is talking to me that gets on my nerves. I lose patience with them and try to get away from them as quickly as possible. One point that was made in the book was that if an elder does not have patience he cannot deal with matters that take a lot of time to fix. He will simply jump to a wrong conclusion, and cause even more grief for the whole congregation. Chapter 12 talks about how an elder must be the spiritual head of his family. I think it is true that an elder who cannot lead his own family probably will not be able to lead God’s church effectively. In addition, people in the congregation will not respect him or his decisions if he has failed as a husband and a father. Finally, Chapter 13 deals with the elder’s reputation. The book points out that we have to respect the elders but they also have a responsibility to earn that respect. They must protect their good reputation by avoiding bad language, not wearing clothes that convey bad behavior, etc. The book quotes Matthew 6:6 to emphasize that a person’s reputation should reflect his private devotion to God. I agree that a good reputation is important because if an elder has a bad reputation at work and then becomes an elder in the church he could give the church a bad reputation in the community. This was the first book I have ever read on the qualification of elders. I thought it was a good, thorough explanation of the traits of being an elder. It not only defined each trait well but it showed me the importance of developing those characteristics while I am young. I hope that one day I am ready to serve as an elder but this book will certainly help me be a better Christian no matter what my eventual role in the church.