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David and Providence (Great Escapes M05E04)


Dig-A-Bit is a weekly mini Bible study with Cindy Colley. It supplements the Digging Deep Bible study for women. In this episode, Cindy discusses God’s Providence and David. For more information about Digging Deep, visit TheColleyHouse.org.

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:

  • Psalm 23
  • 1 Samuel 15-31
  • 1 Samuel 15:9
  • 1 Samuel 16:1, 4
  • 1 Samuel 17:4, 17, 23, 25, *34, 40, *49
  • 1 Samuel 18:1-4, *11, 13, 27
  • 1 Samuel 19:2-3, *12, 18-*24
  • 1 Samuel 20:1-4, 13, 5-23, 15-16, *33, 39
  • 1 Samuel 21:7, 9
  • 1 Samuel 22:*1, 2, *4, 9-10, 18
  • 1 Samuel 23:*1-5, *9-14, 16, 25, *27-28
  • 1 Samuel 24:*3
  • 1 Samuel 25:1-2, *18, 28-29, *32, 33, *39, *38
  • 1 Samuel 26:12, 23
  • 1 Samuel 28:14-19
  • 1 Samuel 29:1-7
  • 1 Samuel 30:8, 11-12, 22-31
  • 1 Samuel 31:1-3, 4, 7-14
  • 2 Samuel 21:12-14

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Where Is Your Sting–Part 5

 

The Sting of Death is Humiliation.

While it should be often said that the sting of death is sin (I Corinthians 15:56), that sting hurts in various places in the human heart.  Sometimes a big part of the sting of death is the feeling of humiliation. It should not be this way, of course, but while I am so very thankful for those healthcare professionals upon whom we depend so heavily in times of illness, there are a relatively few  people in the healthcare industry that have yet to prioritize the good of the patient as the number one concern. Again, the majority of those who are caring for a loved one at the hospital are kind, compassionate and truly seeking the optimal good of the sick person, but not all are. Even those who are fully compassionate are often hampered by regulations of the insurance industry or of the hospital or rehab institution.

Like the primary care doctor, who after we’d made several visits to her clinic, could not recall that my father was a patient of hers when she made hospital rounds, and had not had the time, I assume, to check the records. Or the ER doctor we’d never met, who spent a good little while in the hallway of the ER attempting to talk us into stopping any aggressive treatment long before any Christian could conscientiously comply. I felt sorry for nurses who could not bring very necessary medicines to our father when he was at rehab, because they were not stocked in the pharmacy there. We had those medicines from home, right there in the drawer beside his bed, but the staff was bound, by regulation, to forbid us to administer them, even though we’d been administering them for many years. (Yes. Of course we did.) And there were therapists, who because of patient overload and restrictions by health insurance companies, were forced to be more driven by the clock than by the needs of patients.

Then in the final moments of life, it became obvious that the nursing staff had only two protocol choices: a ventilator OR medication to slow and eventually stop the heart. When we opted for neither of those, the nurse whose job it was to come in at the end of life and facilitate the peaceful passage even stated that, in her 14 years at doing “this”, she’d never seen a family who didn’t choose one or the other.  

Of course, it was not very long until our prayers were answered that night and all suffering ceased forever. I will say that I do not believe the “final-moments-nurse” had seen a family singing “Be With Me Lord” as the heart line on the monitor went flat. But that flat line was so much more than a monitor alerting us. It was the coming of angels and the eternal relief of a redeemed soul.  I believe she finally saw that it was so much more, as she looked at us in total wonder when we started that sweet chorus. 

Now, perhaps this is too much information on too difficult a topic. There are times, though, in life when I’m so affected by the words and actions of those around me who are not in the Lord, that I need to remember and reflect. Here are lessons that I learned as some (a very small percentage in the grand scheme) medical “experts” looked at me as if I had no clue about life or death or ethics or even common sense. Somehow, they made it appear humiliating to fight for the life of an aged man. It seemed when he died, on the face of it, humiliating that we had fought so hard for the life we loved and, in the end, lost that battle. But what the experts did not know, is that we won! We were able to walk away from that scenario, knowing that we had done our best every step of the way. We had maintained the standards of ethical integrity all along the journey and then, when the end came, we put His hand in the hand of Jesus without regret. We could pillow our heads and know that the real Expert was in charge now and that we could freely talk to the One who was lovingly overseeing the care of the perfectly mended one; the one we will miss for a short time and the one we will see again where there are no more tough decisions.

Lessons:

  • Sometimes it’s the people who are less clinically qualified who are the best caregivers. Those Physician”s Assistants have sometimes compensated for any letters they may lack on the ends of their names by exhibiting care and compassion. 
  • Those who study the Bible are far more qualified to define and assess ethics about medicine as it relates to life and death than are people of the world, even though the clinically qualified often do not recognize their deficiencies in these areas. Many doctors and nurses are both well-read in scripture and qualified by their secular educations. This situation is optimal. 
  • Medical professionals, apparently, rarely see families who are intimately involved in the decision-making processes of the aged. They surely seemed surprised that we would chart any sort of course on our own. I’m wondering if this typical relative lack of involvement speaks poorly of our nation’s care for its elderly, in general. 
  • It is extremely comforting to know you’ve prayed Romans 8:28 hundreds of times and what is happening in moments of crisis is a part of the “all things” of that passage. 
  • The sanctity of life can be compromised most easily in the pre-born season of life and in hospital rooms of the aged. Sometimes, those who are vocal for life at one end of the spectrum are careless with it on the other end.  
  • A clear conscience, molded by the Word and protected by His wisdom (James 1:5), is a very valuable commodity for His people at the moment of a loved one’s passage. 
  • The doctors are needed and most are compassionate. But the Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want. 
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Purity Day: 350 Saturdays

If you live an average lifetime, you will have about 3500 Saturdays–the days we usually consider off-days. If you are raising a child, about 900 of those Saturdays will fall during the years that your child is growing up in your home. About 350 of those Saturdays will fall during what we call the “teen years.” Three hundred-fifty  may seem like a lot of off-days, but when you think about science fairs, sick Saturdays, athletic or arts commitments, and homework, the bank of days that you might be using for something that pertains to the soul–the immortal person you are raising– may diminish significantly and without much consideration of the loss. While you might argue that all these activities are good and  pertain to character development, and thus to the soul (and you would be largely correct), there are some Saturday activities that are so practically connected to the choices that determine destiny that their significance just takes my breath away.

Here’s one. May I encourage you to consider this opportunity for your daughters? The topics covered will be of great value. I know you cannot attend every single purity day with your daughter, but I challenge you to choose at least one this year. Here’s a great one. There will be another one later in the year at West Huntsville. Choosing both (different speakers/different approaches to the same important topic) is even better! I’m grateful for those who have taken the large amounts of time (several Saturday’s worth) and effort to coordinate something so powerful in scope for our girls.

https://www.facebook.com/Purity-Day-for-Girls-at-Fairview-church-of-Christ-855279184537314/

Bless Your Heart by Cindy Colley Digging Deep Podcast

Digging Deep Podcast Audio – Great Escapes 05

Digging Deep in God’s Word is a Bible study for women with author and host, Cindy Colley. January is month 5 of the Great Escapes study. This month’s topic is Escape by His Providence-Part One. Click here to order or download a study guide.

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  • The Colley House
  • Music: “Inspired Corporate” by Neozilla at audiojungle.net
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God meant It for Good (Great Escapes M05E03)


Dig-A-Bit is a weekly mini Bible study with Cindy Colley. It supplements the Digging Deep Bible study for women. In this episode, Cindy continues talking about Joseph and the providence of God. For more information about Digging Deep, visit TheColleyHouse.org.

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:

  • Genesis 41:16, *25-28, 29-30, *40, *42-43, 45, 49, 51, 52, *54, 56, 57
  • Genesis 42:2, 4, 6, 9, 14, 15, 21, 25, 28, 35
  • Genesis 43:1, 12-13, 16, 26, 28
  • Genesis 44:2, 12, 14
  • Genesis 45:1, 9-10, 16, 20
  • Genesis 46:3-4, 29
  • Genesis 47:1-12, 14, 17, 20, 23-24, 27
  • Genesis 48:11, 15
  • Genesis 50:18, 19-21
  • Romans 12
  • Romans 8:28

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Digging Deep: Podcast and Pendants


It’s podcast week again and some of us will be working hard to finish the January study by the middle of this week. I’m finished with all the Joseph listing and the part about the Judges, but I’ve still got to get busy on the “David list.” The study has been all about the providence of God and several things have become very obvious as we’ve gone through it. Here are five stand-outs for me. They are simple (like me). 

  1. Providence is, in some ways, every bit as unbelievably amazing as the miraculous. A God Who can orchestrate all the events, good and bad, of my life (and all of those surrounding events that affect my life) to my ultimate spiritual benefit (Romans 8:28), has to be the One Who could speak the universe into existence. 
  2. Providence is much better identified in the past than in the present. It’s much easier to look back, after at least some of the providential orchestration has occurred, and see that God was working His Will, through the events that unfolded, than it is to know what He’s doing right now in my life. 
  3. Sometimes, in the present, providence hurts. We can see this over and over in the chronicles of the life of Joseph. 
  4. Providence is surely an exhibition of Isaiah 55:9: “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
  5. Sometimes sin can be a part of the tapestry of providence. Joseph needed to get down to Egypt to accomplish the eventual rise to power that favored Jacob’s family and allowed its prosperity and growth. Thus, the sale of Joseph into slavery and their deception of Jacob was providential. Joseph said as much in Genesis 50:20: “But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.”

I hope you can join Dene’ Canter and me, live, on Tuesday night, January 30th, at 7 CST here:http://livestream.com/whcoc/for-women for this first discussion on the providence of our mighty God. I hope you can contribute via the chatroom. I pray that it will encourage us and bless us as we trust that He is overseeing the paths we travel. 

FInally, don’t forget the little sterling silver pendants are here. We finally have the small boxes we need to ship them out to you. Those were back-ordered. We’re caught up on the orders received thus far. You can order here: http://thecolleyhouse.org/store#!/Sterling-Silver-Digging-Deep-Pendant/p/99264175/category=20688312.  If you order within the next week or so, you should receive them in time for Valentine’s Day gifts. 

It’s always good to hear from you. We love feedback. Here’s the word we’ve gotten so far about the pendants:

I received my Digging Deep pendant today and I love it. I immediately put in on a silver chain and put it around my neck. My daughter-in-law put hers on her charm bracelet. Very good quality.” …Rachel Kelly  

I’m excited to put mine on a little silver chain tomorrow…right beside a tiny little antique diamond pendant that my husband gave to me for our anniversary;  reminders of a couple of life’s priorities right now, side by side.