I recently spoke with Emily Hatfield on Wifey Wednesdays about “What to Do when your Husband Is Wrong”. You can find that here:http://thelightnetwork.tv/wws5e3/.
Since that time, some have asked for the article I mentioned on that episode. Here it is and it IS worth a reprint.
A few years ago, a very dear friend came into my life at a time when her marriage was falling apart. She was battered…not by an angry husband, but by several years of falling into the mire of self-pity and revenge whenever it was her turn to lose in the selfish tug of war that was daily occurring in her middle class marriage. It was time to throw the dirty towel into that mire and walk away. Thankfully, though, the Lord came into her life and she and her husband honestly assessed the critical situation and slowly rebuilt the marriage with the building blocks of Ephesians five. They are now living “happily ever after.” It was this friend, who, once she had come out of this darkness, first called to my attention this article by Becky Zerbe. My friend found some answers she needed in this article. The article has been often reprinted. I rarely include the writings of others in this blog, especially things written by those I don’t know. But this is real. It’s powerful. And it might be a list that some of us need to make.Although, I couldn’t ever (without scriptural reason) offer to assist my daughter in getting a divorce, this mom was, otherwise, pretty wise in her counsel. Read on…
The List That Saved My Marriage
What an inventory of my husband’s shortcomings taught me
By Becky Zerbe
“Becky,” she said, “take this list back to your house. Spend today reflecting on these things in your life. Pray about them. I’ll keep the baby until this afternoon. If you sincerely do what I ask and still want to leave Bill, Dad and I will do all we can to assist you.
Becky Zerbe is author of Laughing with My Finger in the Dam. Becky has been married to Bill for 29 years.Copyright © 2005 by the author or Christianity Today International/Marriage Partnership magazine.